It's ok to not have an opinion on everything. And it's REALLY ok to not share every opinion you do have.
I noticed a few years back that although my kids all wanted to be on facebook before they were even of age, they rarely post anything. And as they, and their friends, got older, they moved more and more to apps like instagram and snapchat, instead of facebook- where photos tell the story, not words. I knew the buzzword here was "oversharing", and I often thought of it when someone shared something a little too personal about their child, or when a single mom posted photos of men half dressed and not much older than her own child, with comments that made me blush. (Before anyone gets all outraged, I'm no longer friends with that mom, and it's probably not anyone who will ever read this. But if you got all upset by my mentioning this incident.. well, give that some thought.)
But recently, I think oversharing is more broad. I'm a little tired of reading everyone's opinions on absolutely everything, and I think that was overloading the teens too. The teen years are when you really start to figure out what you believe, and it's made more complicated by all of us yelling on facebook to "make our point" on both sides of every issue. But to be clear, we spend our entire lives figuring out what we truly believe. It only begins when we are young, and it's constantly reflected in how we live.
Here are a couple of suggestions, as I taught them to my kids. I hope they've taken them to heart.
1. Don't feed drama. (often stated as a reminder - "don't feed it!")
If you don't like something, but it has NO effect on you personally, ignore it. There's no need to share your dislike of it. There's no need to think about it, or mention it. Oh, yes, by all means come to the kitchen and vent to me about it, and we'll laugh over the ridiculousness.. I'm your mom and that's what I'm here for. Then let it go.
2. The World IS a stage - but you don't have to be a performer.
There are a lot of background people for any stage production. Often more than there are actual cast members on stage. It's ok to work in the background. As a matter of fact, for most of your life, it's a wise decision. There's no need to stand on the street corner shouting your opinions (or post them as your facebook status). Those who know you should KNOW your opinions without you having to speak. And when they want to know how you feel and they aren't sure, they can ask. Your life should reflect your values strongly enough that your words are unnecessary.
3. It's ok to not have an opinion
Or to not know your opinion. We aren't all called to be wise men in this world, even though we all have access to google and software that allows us to add quotes on graphics. Somewhere along the way we got the idea that if we don't have a strong opinion than we are somehow less intelligent. It's been my experience that those who are listening to both sides, with their mouth shut, often have a lot more wisdom than those quoting the latest facebook meme. (And some who are ignoring the issue completely are super wise too - not everything needs our attention.) There are some issues where I know where I stand and I'm firm in my beliefs. But there are many others where I really just don't know. And that's ok. Sometimes, when it's important, I can search out the truth in God's word, which is the foundations for my beliefs. But on many, many, issues, it's ok to not be sure what is right - if you aren't participating in it, its ok to just not care, even if the rest of the world is shouting about it. You need to know what matters and what doesn't, then don't waste your time on issues your opinon won't help or change. Worry about your core beliefs, and the rest will work itself out, you don't have to have an opinion on every action of every sports figure or politician or even of every neighbor. Live your own life to reflect what you believe.
4. Don't do anything to embarrass your grandparents.
And that includes what you say. It's ok to have opinions that they would not like. But out of respect for your family, just keep your mouth shut. Family trumps your opinions. Too many families argue over things that in the grand scheme of things, do not even effect them, let alone matter.
5. You Are Unlikely To Change Someone's Opinion In a Facebook Status
So if you are posting something with a strong opinion that is generally divisive, why are you posting it? Do you really think it will change how someone else see the situation? Does your life not reflect your stance, so you feel like you need to compensate by making a grand (or often just loud) statement? Are you so insecure that you need to post something to try to get a bunch of likes from people who don't know you well enough to already know what you believe?
And here's the catch 22. Just by writing this, I violated the entire concept. I'm telling the world what I believe, and why. I have a strong opinion on everyone constantly sharing their opinions, and I'm telling you my opinion on that. I'm feeling confident that my life, mostly, reflects what I have said here, and that my children's lives have too.
So why am I sharing it? I think I am hoping that it will encourage some who are overwhelmed by the onslaught of opinions we face every day. It's ok to not respond. It's ok to not care. It's ok to be quiet on big issues everyone else is screaming about. And sometimes, it's ok to speak your mind. Just please try to do it with respect, and perhaps, sometimes, without a quote covered graphic.
If more of us lived the values we're screaming about on facebook, we'd have a lot less time to have opinions on everything everyone else does.
"Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal." I Corinthians 13:1
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
Saturday, August 6, 2016
The first puzzle was VERY simple, so simple that many were overthinking it.
A= 6 letters after A = ABCDEFG
C= 2 letters after C = CDE
N= 1 letter after N = NO
Continuing with the next 3 plates until you have the code to type into the page linked in the email, where the mission was revealed. The answer had to be entered completely in lower case, I think that may have been more confusing than the actual puzzle. :-)
On the 3rd plate, for W6 - you go back to the start of the alphabet. So it was WXYZABC
If you completed the mission, finding a cache with more than 10 favorite points that week-end, you received this souvenir:
For us, this meant traveling a bit, since we've found all the caches less than 40 minutes from our home. We found a cache that fit the requirements, and it was a nice large ammo can in a driveway. That inspired this post - There are Better Caches Than an Ammo Can In A Driveway - http://fieldsofhether.blogspot.com/2016/07/there-are-better-caches-than-ammo-can.html
Saturday, July 30, 2016
It was an ammo can in a driveway. A very nice ammo can. It was under a very nice tree. But it was an ammo can in a driveway. In a crowded residential area. You could spot the cache when you got out of the vehicle. 28 favorite points.
So with that experience in mind, here are some of my all time favorite caches. My favorite in this general area has only 19 favorite points, which makes me so sad when you remember that an ammo can in a driveway somehow merited 28.
My favorite caches are usually favorites for one of 3 reasons. 1. It took me to an awesome location. 2. It was a creative container. Or 3, it was a gadget cache. I so love gadget caches.
These are not really in any order, after my #1 favorite. I'm sure it's nowhere near a comprehensive list. But if you are looking for some great options this week-end, you can do a bit better than an ammo can in a driveway.
Mr Data Goes Caching (Only 19 favorites?? That's so wrong)
My absolute favorite cache in "our area" (it's about an hour away from us, in Berwick PA It;s worth the drive, and there are tons of other great caches nearby.)
This is not a get out of your car and grab it geocache. You'll have to work for this one. But it is so much fun! Stage one involves putting a pvc pipe puzzle together to get the coord for stage 2. Each stage is creative like that. It's truly awesome! You'll have to walk (or bike) a little bit to get to the final, but it's on a bike path, it's not a difficult walk.
Bases Loaded (Currently only 21 favorite points)
The town of Williamsport is known for the Little League World Series, even though the actual games are held across the river in South Williamsport. Still, this intersection in Williamsport is just really cool. They not only have baseball players on bases at each corner, but the crosswalks are even all green to form the baseball diamond. Then, as if the location for this cache was enough to earn favorite points, the actual cache is a really creative hide a short distance away. Well done. Very well done.
OutBreak (Currently just FIVE favorite points. Pitiful)
Located kind of between Milton and Danville.
Now this cache is a bit of a challenge. It's a puzzle cache. And a Night cache. But it has a story line, a mystery with clues to discover, and gadgets. It's seriously awesome. It is not simple. It does involve walking in the woods, in the dark to gather clues. It's so much fun - especially in a group - it's truly sad that so few people have made the attempt to find it.
Rinse Please (this has a respectable 32 favorite points)
This is a gadget cache. It's right in a parking lot, but SO well camoed that seasoned geocachers have struggled to find it. And then there's the fun of retrieving it. It's really fun, and SO well done.
The Widow Smith (Currently 9 favorites)
White Deer PA
Here it's not the cache, so much as the history lesson that goes with it. I love caches that teach the history of the area!
Falling Water (currently 8 favorites)
near Sunbury PA
Such a beautiful spot! A place I probably would have never seen if not for geocaching.
Old Trolls (10 favorites)
This isn't anything too spectacular, just a quick find in a great container. You won't have to solve a puzzle, or walk more than 10 steps even. It's just a great theme, and a great container.
Flea Market Find (28 favorites currently)
Another super simple find - drive right up to it practically. But such a great container!
Betwixt & Between 6 & 5 (49 favorite points)
If you really feel the need to find a cache in someones front yard, this is one of the best ever. Super creative gadget cache, with tree cover as you make the find.
Not Another Lamp Post (86 favorites)
For those of us who bemoan the prevalence of lampskirt geocaches, this is just fun. Unique. And not nearly as difficult as WVTim's Under The Lampost cache in West Virginia - although that's another great lamp post spoof cache.
Birds Eye View Over Hess (15 favorites)
Pretty spot, on a great trail (easy trail) and a creative container.
Milton Historical Society Wherigo (3 favorites. Just 3.
Now this is a bit trickier - not everyone is set up to do wherigos. We used the Where You Go app for android, and this was just a REALLY well done wherigo, based on the walking tour in Milton.
Saturday, June 18, 2016
This was by far the most unique, and probably the most frustrating, wherigo that I have ever done. We spent a good hour or more walking around an empty grass field playing virtual battleship.
From the cache description:
"You must sink all battleships before your ammo runs out. To start the game, stand in the middle of the field and select the "Start Game" item.
The ships will be hidden from view until you damage one. To shoot where you are standing, select the caliber shell from your inventory and click the "Fire!" button. All ships within the shell's area of effect will be damaged.
To win the game, you must sink all five ships before your ammunition runs out."
You cannot save this game. And when you restart the game, the locations will not be exactly the same - so just because you sunk a ship from one spot, does not mean you will sink the same ship in a new game, from the same spot.
You have a limited amount of ammo. My strategy, after the first practice game, was to shoot fairly large ammo in any direction to locate the ships, then use smaller ammo to sink them.
Then in an extra frustrating ending - the actual final for the geocache is pretty far away! As if we hadn't already spent the entire day walking...
But all in all we really loved this. So much so that Dan is hoping the owner will share the cartridge so we can recreate it here in PA.
We both played on Android Phones - Me on a Note 5, Dan on a Turbo II. We both use the Where You Go App for Wherigos - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=menion.android.whereyougo&hl=en
We were able to visit Geocaching Headquarters, and complete the HQ geotour, while in Washington this year. Each of these geocaches is well thought out, and well done. This is all urban caching, but geocaching is so common and familiar in this area that muggles are not really a problem. The first cache we did was so obvious, it was near impossible to show any true stealth. But like the WVTim caches in West Virginia, it just wasn't really necessary to hide what we were doing.
The passport for the caches can be found here:
We did not have the passport with us, and we didn't have access to a printer. Neither did another group we ran into several times that day. That was no problem, we both used paper we had with us and groundspeak had no trouble accepting that from us.
The caches are all pretty close together. But the hills are pretty steep in this area - and it's a pretty good hike from Under Aurora to Troll Droppings. The biggest issue in Fremont is parking. We found a parking garage right down the road from headquarters. It is not what we think of as a parking garage - it's just one floor, and only had about 20 spots. The really awesome thing was that it was not only cheap, but we could monitor the time left, and add time, from our phones. http://www.calltopark.com/
"In 1991, Fremont Scientists, after a careful, considered study of these affect, while at a local alehouse, with barely a slur or stumble, determined the Center of the Universe to be at the intersection of N Fremont Ave and 35 St N – with the reasoning that this local can neither be proven, nor disproven!" - http://fremont.com/about/centeruniverseguidepost/
This is a REALLY well done, variety of caches. Nothing as fancy as the WVTim caches in West Virginia, but there's a puzzle cache, a gadget cache, a multi stage, creative containers, and they take you to some interesting sights. You'll see the fremont troll, the statue of lenin (I REALLY recommend the gyros at the shop behind the statue! They were fabulous!) the rocket, the sign stating that Fremont is the center of the universe, a nice view of the waterfront, hedges trimmed into dinosaur shapes,
I've uploaded all of our photos from the Fremont area of Seattle here. There may be some cache spoilers. https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.506345709567848.1073742092.175207949348294&type=1&l=270a5e38cb
Many of the caches are multi staged, and there's a LOT to see. Add in the heat, and the hills, and it took us over 3 hours to log them all. We attempted the wherigo while finding them, but it was too confusing to do both at the same time. We ended up feeling a bit rushed as it was.
Originally we had a tour scheduled, but our travel plans changed, so we did the drop in hours at headquarters instead. We arrived at 4:20, giving us 40 minutes to explore headquarters. Again, I felt rushed. I'd recommend arriving right at 4 and giving yourself the full hour there. Everything you need to know about visiting HQ can be found here: http://geocachinghq.com/schedule/
There's a travel but you can pose in, a photo booth with props, the geocache which is full of containers of travel bugs. There's a project ape cache box, and all sorts of other memorabilia, in addition to the shopping area. There's a LOT packed into that little lobby.
The "Been there, logged that" t-shirt can only be purchased at headquarters. We also purchased the trackable coin for completing the HQ tour.
After visiting headquarters, we went back to the lenin statue to have gyros - they were amazing! Spicier than any I've had here in PA. Our hotel was in the Southern part of Seattle, and Fremont is northern seattle. I wanted to see the sunset and Kerry park was recommended as a good place to do so, so we wanted to stay in the area.
After dinner we headed over to the lake (where there is plenty of parking) and did the Seattle You Sank My Battleship Wherigo. This took us a couple of hours. It's the most unique wherigo I've ever done, and I've written about it separately here: http://fieldsofhether.blogspot.com/2016/06/battle-ship-wherigo-geocaching.html
Before going to Kerry Park for the sunset, we made a quick stop to do one of the totally tubular caches,
Then on to Kerry Park, where there is an easy virtual. This is really not a great place to see the sunset, but it's a terrific view of the skyline, and the sunset reflects off of the buildings, which is what makes it so popular.
This was my facebook status at days end:
Yesterday we were in the Fremont area of Seattle. Artsy, dogs in every store, more bike racks than parking spaces, home to Google & geocaching headquarters. It's really a fun area. The statues are all decorated. If its your friends birthday, its perfectly acceptable, even expected, to dress up a staue & add a happy birthday sign. (Google "fremont interurban") Driving is interesting though... parking on both sides of the street (rarely a space to be found open) leaves ONE narrow lane for driving. But the streets are not one way. Intersections, and there are MANY, do not have stop signs. Many narrow streets have huge circular flower beds in the center of the intersection, sort of like an artsy traffic circle that no one appears to know how to navigate around. The parking "garage" (one level - about 20 spaces total) was awesome - you pay with your phone, & get a countdown on your phone of how much time is left with the option to add more. There's a huge lake on the outskirts where I think every person living here goes after work to run, Rollerblade, kayak.... and almost everyone had a dog along. Even with that many people, there was no trash. Everything was in good shape, and I never felt crowded or uncomfortable along the path. There was even a blue heron within feet of me - also unbothered by the crowds running, walking, biking, and rollerblading past. (Bikes & pedestrians have designated lanes, and people appeared to really follow the rules). It was a really fun day, and completely not what I expected from Seattle. I suspect today will be slightly more typical big city, we're down in the "heart" of the city today.
Totals for the day:
9 HQ Geotour Caches (1 letterbox, 2 multis, 2 puzzles, 4 regulars)
1 HQ geocache - the HQ geocache is a special icon, it's own type of cache
1 wherigo (battleship)
1 gadget (regular) near the zoo
17 really diverse and awesome geocaches. Amazing views, fun puzzles, fun games, great sights. It was an amazing day!